Many intelligent people do not achieve great success in their careers and in life, and it is not uncommon for them to be subordinated to people of inferior education and intellect.
And for this many people ask themselves, in what they are wrong, why is it so difficult for smart people to be happy?
"The intelligent man knows everything about everything except what may benefit him. The happy man knows exactly what is best for him."
Smart people have too high standards.
Having standards is not bad at all. It will help you walk the path to happiness and success. However, too high standards can be a problem.
Smart people usually know what they want out of life and refuse to settle for less. Their high standards apply to all areas of life: work, relationships, life goals.
In fact, such demands can be very difficult to satisfy. This is why intelligent people are constantly haunted by feelings of frustration with their own accomplishments or with work that does not allow them to move forward. Their excessive expectations of themselves can also have a significant impact on their relationships with others.
Smart people are often unable to accept things as they are, and focus on how they should ideally be.
If you are experiencing a state of happiness, your mind is usually fully in the present moment. Then your attention is fully focused on what is happening to you right now.
"The happiness of intelligent people is the rarest thing I have ever met" - Ernest Hemingway.
Smart people don't know how to get satisfaction from the present moment because they are constantly trying to find some meaning.
In a very intelligent person, knowledge trumps awareness. His consciousness is unable to get satisfaction from the present moment: it adds to it or takes away from it, clarifies or reformulates, understands or interprets, just wanders away somewhere, etc. The mind tries to "edit" the current moment and make sense of it because the moment itself is not enough.
This frustration prompts the mind to work desperately to retrieve all the accumulated information and memories that would allow it to make the moment "even better."
And during this process, the mind behaves impatiently, frantically, or confused because its discoveries turn out to be insufficient or it has no luck finding anything at all. And as its current resources prove insufficient, it begins to work even harder: reading, writing, searching the Internet, and just thinking.
Happiness is a mind that calms down; intelligence is a mind that refuses to calm down.
For a happy mind, what is there is enough. Such a person does not try to change the present; he simply accepts it and acts according to the circumstances. The over-intelligent person, on the contrary, is not at all easy to please, so he will never be able to understand what the happy mind is so satisfied with and will accuse him of laziness.
"The ability to observe without judging is the highest form of intelligence."-Jiddu Krishnamurti.
Most intelligent people are constantly obsessed with something.
Highly intelligent people tend to constantly analyze and study things to exhaustion. To make any decision, they have to weigh all the pros and cons. This tendency often leads them to depression.
At the same time, the answers they get to their agonizing questions can not only be unpleasant and frustrating, but also have a devastating effect on the thinkers themselves.
If the result of actions turns out to be worse than expected, intelligent people experience deep disappointment.
Actions do not always lead to the same programmed outcome: intelligent people have too much faith in the power of their intelligence and its ability to predict the consequences of their actions.
"The happiness of intelligent people is the rarest thing I have ever met."- Ernest Hemingway.
Constant relentless self-criticism.
Most intelligent people have quite low self-esteem, and the reason for this lies in the constant criticism they make of themselves.
They are unable to accept their shortcomings because they believe they must live up to the highest standards. That is why they are often in a gloomy state of mind.
They seek a deeper level of existence.
The most intelligent people are able to distinguish the good from the bad, but cannot accept negative human qualities or treat them too harshly. The realization of the harsh truth is painful and overwhelming for them because most intelligent people look inward first and foremost.
They cannot live without constantly reflecting and evaluating their results - it is their second nature. Highly intelligent people have an inquiring mind that constantly asks questions and makes them feel anxious.
"All men who have achieved excellence in philosophy, poetry, art, and politics-even Socrates and Plato-have had a melancholy disposition; in some of them melancholy has even passed into the stage of disease."
Few people truly understand them.
Communication is the greatest source of happiness. We always try to share our worries and concerns with others, which makes it easier to deal with them.
Even the most intelligent person needs someone to share their worries with, thus easing their burden. But it can be very difficult for a highly intelligent person to find a companion who has the same depth as he does.
High intelligence often leads to psychological problems.
High IQ people suffer from a particular kind of disorder that causes them to constantly analyze and question everything. And this path usually brings them neither happiness nor psychological health.
The human mind is a very complex thing and not fully understood. Overanalyzing and a constant feeling of isolation is something that often accompanies intellectual people throughout their lives.
Happiness is hard work every day.
Intelligent people should not give up so easily on the company of others. This is why many intelligent and sensitive people feel so unhappy.
It is quite natural that most intellectuals have some quirks and strange hobbies. But that's no reason to stop associating with people who aren't so perceptive and sensitive.
Intelligent people can behave quite awkwardly in public.
Ordinary people often take advantage of the fact that intellectuals are unfit for life in society. That is why intellectuals often find themselves under the fire of criticism, ridicule, while people of average intelligence, on the contrary, celebrate victory at that moment.
"I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a word I say."- Oscar Wilde.
Intelligent people often fear that they may lose their abilities.
Ironic taunts and sarcastic attacks from others usually take them by surprise; they don't know how to react. Subsequent analysis of their own behavior only intensifies their sadness.
The question. - The question remains. In theory, things are easy, but in practice they are difficult. Intelligent people often trap themselves. As we began the article, it is all too common that intelligent people do not achieve great success in their careers and may even be subordinated to people of lesser education and intellect. Some intellectuals, especially creative individuals, even break under the pressure of circumstances and other people or fall victim to manipulation.
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